Band of Misfits

Meet my little band of misfits- The #sixbunch

I will try to behave as these are first introductions. 

Meet I, or The Girl, or Little Miss Sassy Pants, as I most commonly refer to her. #6 (7 years old)

She has a lively disposition, a free spirit, and she listens to her inner voice, which is very sassy and colorful. She is charismatic, and definitely isn’t afraid to express her individuality. She has gorgeous baby blues and her own sense of style. Although little, she is not a lightweight. She is a mighty fierce heavyweight in attitude. She is way too smart for her own good, and for my preference. She is a non-conformer, and she is highly volatile and chronically inflexible...Wait, I promised to be good.  

Say Hello to H. #5 (8 years old)

H is curious and gentle. She loves nature and all creatures in it. She is imaginative, and has wonderful idealism. She has a beautiful singing aptitude, and she desires peace and harmony. She is determined, and she does not, I repeat, does not, do well with losing- in anything. And man does she know how to drive her sister insanely crazy with just a non-answer. She has made an art form out of “The Ignore.” She is quite gifted.

Then there’s S, or Thank God for S, as I used to refer to him, sandwiched in between The boy and The Girl. #4 (12 years old)

He is gentle through his core. He has a strong sense of character, and has an altruistic and noble nature. Unfortunately, he has little fear and climbs, flips, jumps, and scales any fence, building, mountain, or structure he comes into contact with.  Even more scary- he is good, very good. He has a sweet soul, he trusts in the good, has a crazy, mature sense of responsibility and self discipline. He is boyishly charming with deep-set eyes and dimples. His laugh is infectious, and his temper is from planet evil.

 Next up, Ja. #3 (13 years old)

Ja has a strong spirit. His athleticism is awe inspiring. He can not only play any sport, but he is extremely good, no… great, at any sport. He has a killer sweet smile. His will is unbreakable. He has a childlike sense of wonderment, and is very likable- when he isn’t throwing stinging one liner insults, that is- mostly aimed at his older brothers. His confidence that he is going to be something really big someday is unwavering and awe-inspiring.

 Meet C, The Boy. #2 (14 Years old)

C has a larger than life heart and his mechanical skills are mind blowing. He is tender and actually “gets” life, although he will always be the one to give everyone the hardest time about it. He is affectionate. Very affectionate. Annoyingly affectionate, if you ask #6. He has strong perseverance and great integrity. He is very deeply rooted in family and loyalty. He is a natural caretaker, or bosser-arounder, depending on who you’re talking to. He is relentless in many, many things. Mostly things you don’t want him to be relentless in- like arguing why he knows his way around the city you have lived in for longer than he has been alive- that, and well, he doesn’t even drive.

And then there was one…Jo. #1. (15 years old)

Jo is highly independent. He is funny, and witty, and likes to be the center of attention. He has a deadly handsome smile and never ending confidence. He has strong leadership skills. Being fifteen, naturally he knows Every. Single. Thing. In. This. World. Even things he doesn't know, he know. He has an amazing God-given basketball talent. He is headstrong. He is charismatic. He will find a way to get what he wants at any cost- that’s called resourcefulness, which is a good thing. I think.  

Let's talk Bubbas. He is not part of the #sixbunch, he is just my favorite. 

Lastly, meet the The Hubby...He is kind-of amazing. Of course, he has his moments, but in his defense, it's not easy being married to a woman knowing that anything he says and does could end up in words, as a story or narrative potentially twisted to my advantage. He is a good sport. He isn't perfect...he has a semi-sorted past, he isn't always easy, and his listening skills are often AWOL. He can be difficult to reason with, and really quick to pounce. He has been hard wired to fight, which is exactly opposite of my programming. I am not all rainbows and butterflies though..I have absurd OCD- to the point of unreasoning. I am excessively independent and can be very headstrong, especially in my social and political views; I have very little tolerance for non-liberal beliefs. I get cranky when I'm stressed. Our backgrounds are different for sure, but, together, we work. We just work. Our past has shaped us into the people we were meant to be with each other. We love, we share, we talk, we compromise, we resolve, we give, we change, we grow, we practice kindness, we make time, we spend time, we make each other laugh- a lot...we just work. And, we have an extraordinary sex life. What?? I am forty years old, (You should know, I do age by the tens. So, I am forty until I am fifty. Well, and even then, I may still choose to be forty.) Anyway, as I was saying, I am forty years old, I can talk about sex. I make no apologies that I am attracted to my husband and actually like, no, LOVE, being intimate with him. He makes me feel amazing and beautiful, and not just in bed, but in life. Yes, we disagree. Yes, I drive him insane. Yes, we argue (mostly about my preference to my dog over anyone else in the house). Yes, we have our differences. Yes, we let life get in the way sometimes. However, we are very conscientious and diligent about resolving our issues, learning from our mistakes, and not repeating destructive cycles. This is our second/third go around in life, and we are mindful about our marriage. We aren't afraid to get our hands dirty. We embrace, not shy away from, difficult conversations about our observations of one another. We talk, and keep talking- productively. We don't do mean and ugly; we won't tolerate it no matter how mad we may get. We make a conscious effort to be attentive to each other's emotional well-being, and we are committed to a willingness to keep changing and growing. A good marriage is work. A great marriage is openness, transparency, self-discovery, feeling safe- physically and emotionally- knowing our hearts, spirits, and souls are protected with one another, feeling okay about who we are, and knowing our intentions with one another and our family are always pure. It's about edifying each other, and ultimately about ascension as a unit, as husband and wife, as parents. We are walking through life with each other, together on the same path. 

So, there you have it... Everyone is fair game on my blog- much to the discontent of all my peeps, I am sure. I am not even exempt from my own snarkiness. This blog won't be for everyone. So, if it's not for you, simply don't follow it. If it is, then hang around. :))